After engaged the couple still avoids intimacy until marriage. People rarely fall away from God as a result of drugs, alcohol, or cults. If he can succeed, you will discover that your relationship with God will suffer. I knew God had called me into the ministry, so I realized my choice for a wife was critical.Christianity is a relationship, so it stands to reason that an unholy relationship will be the number one cause of backsliding. Dating is Satans method of getting you distracted from God. Once a person develops intimacy, they can easily make each other out to be idols. Like Romeo and Juliet you will began to despise the advice of your parents and others who care for your spiritual well being. Satan tried to get me involved in wrong relationships with different girls. None of the girls I liked were interested in being a preachers wife. One girl, who was drunk at the time, said to me, "Tom, with you being religious and all that, and me being such a sinner, we would make a good couple." Yea, sure?We should expect purity before marriage, just as we would expect purity during marriage. And worse, I feel dating is so expected and sometimes, encouraged by the church, family and Christian friends, that we wonder why people fail sexually, and later, get disappointed when they fail in their marriage. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body" (1 Cor , ASV). Lets face it: dating as it is practiced today, does not agree with this scripture. Okay, so you feel something for this guy, but use your head, not your libido. Does love motivate the guy who sleeps with his girlfriend when it will scar her emotionally and damage her relationship with God? That was the only time we placed ourselves in that kind of position. The best safeguard is to teach and expect our members to practice courtship.
Common sense tells us that sex will be wonderful so long as you are in love with the person. Let me ask you this question: how long do you think he will keep his clothes? Yet, you and I both know he probably will keep those overalls for many years.The world expects teenagers to date, so parents feel like they must go along with the world. They are seeing how close they can get to sex without actually doing it. The scriptures also says, "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute (fornicator) is one with her in body? It is meant by God to draw together two people who are in love and who have committed to spend the rest of their lives together. I know guys will say anything to get sex from their girlfriends. Is he ready to take responsibility for a child that they might conceive? How can we expect to exercise self-control if we constantly put ourselves in compromising situations? The only time we had to repent before God was when we placed ourselves in a position we should not have. Not one that has wheels constantly spinning around.Listen, unless a person is ready for marriage, they should not be placed in a position to perform the duties of marriage. For it is said, "The two will become one flesh (1 Cor )." Fornication is similar to the act of marriage. They will even use the famous "I love you" line to get what they want. As I wrote earlier, my wife and I were virgins before we got married. You may want to go straight down the aisle, but if you are not real careful, your cart will veer off course into a can of tomatoes.The main cause of divorce is not what is happening during marriage but what happened before marriage.
How you live as a single person, will eventually show up in your marriage.Let me say first of all: Dont get hung up on terms.