The IVF process worked and I am in my 18th week as I type this.I am grateful to have the first trimester behind me and to enjoy the privilege of sharing this exciting news with friends far and near.“Hmmm,” I thought “maybe I should tell this guy right away that I’m going to have a baby? Still early to tell the world, but maybe a fair time to tell someone who might take me out to dinner and expect that I’m not expecting. About an hour into our first conversation, I told him that I had something I wanted to share–I was pregnant.So, in part of my reply to his email, I included that we share a devotion to honesty and, in that spirit, I wanted to let him know that motherhood was extremely important to me and that I have begun the process of becoming a mother on my own. Would I have been better off meeting him and then telling him a few weeks later that I was pregnant? He was pretty surprised and said that I had rendered him speechless.My friend dated a single mom and she was always breaking plans because of childcare issues, or suggesting he just come over and watch a movie. Maybe she’s like my friend and had a baby after just dating someone. I dated a single mom who had a lot of issues with her ex and I found that I got sucked into a lot of drama.I’m young and I want to have fun, out in the world, not be tied down to someone’s living room while her kid sleeps in the bedroom. I admire my friend for being a stand-up guy and taking care of his son, so my opinion of a woman doing the same … Also, her ex had issues with me being around his daughter because he was threatened by the relationship that was forming.You can check off that you are single, separated, divorced, or widowed.
Is there a perfect time to tell a man who may be interested in dating me that I’m going to have a baby this summer?Next, I received a lovely email from a man on Jdate.He boasted in his profile about his open-mindedness and honest approach to life. We emailed back and forth a bit, then texted and finally found a time to speak.The crowd was a mix of college guys and young professionals. And when the topic of my work came up, I told a small group of guys that I was working on an interesting article that required me to tap real-life guys for their opinions on dating single moms. It seems like baggage and I wouldn’t want to be involved in any baby-daddy drama.” “My mom was a single mom most of my childhood, so I have tons of respect for single mothers.
I would absolutely go on a date with a single mom and see where it could lead.
The conversation took lots of different turns and lasted for another hour.